Love Story for the Ages

As Valentine's Day approaches, I find myself reflecting on the greatest love story I know — the story of my parents. They have been married since 1959 and, in 2025, they are still happily together, side by side. Their love is not just an emotion; it is a testament to commitment, sacrifice, and unwavering devotion.

They met under fairly ordinary circumstances, but their love turned it into something extraordinary.

The Beginning of Forever

My father was an immigrant from Canada, moving from a tiny town in northern Saskatchewan to Los Angeles when he was just 15 years old. His father was ill, and the family relocated in search of medical care. Life was not easy, but my dad took on responsibilities early, working hard to support his family while finishing high school.

My mother, on the other hand, had grown up in Oklahoma City, raised by a single, hardworking mother. She was shy and soft-spoken, a stark contrast to my father’s spirited and lively family, particularly his strong-willed and gregarious mother, who we all lovingly called “Granni.” But my father took after his own dad—a quiet, thoughtful, and deliberate man.

Their story begins on an unexpected blind double date. My dad had been set up with someone else, and they had already picked up his date when they stopped to collect his friend’s date — who happened to be my mother. The moment he saw her, he leaned over to his friend and matter-of-factly stated, “This one is my date.” And just like that, they swapped partners, and a decades-long love affair began.

A Lifetime of Love

Today, in their mid-eighties, my parents are still an inseparable pair. They eat a late brunch together every day, hold hands on walks, and share quiet conversations in the evenings. I often find them chatting about the little things that make up life, stealing a kiss, or simply enjoying the comfort of each other's presence.

My father still opens the car door for my mother, extends a hand to help her in, and ensures she is settled before closing the door gently. These small gestures — often overlooked in today’s fast-paced world — are the foundation of a love that has lasted more than six decades.

Their love has endured trials, joys, grief, and triumphs, but through it all, they have stood together, choosing each other every single day. The strength of their bond has extended far beyond their marriage, blessing six children, eighteen grandchildren, and many great-grandchildren and great-great-grandchildren.

Love That Lasts a Lifetime

At BeeHive Homes, we believe that love should continue to thrive, even as couples enter their later years. Our homes are designed to provide a warm, comfortable environment where couples can live together, share meals, and continue writing their love story. Whether it’s a place for yourself, a parent, an aunt or uncle, or a beloved grandparent, BeeHive Homes is the next best place to home—a place where love is cherished, memories are honored, and every resident is treated like family.

If you or your loved one are looking for compassionate, home-like assisted living, we invite you to schedule a tour and experience the BeeHive difference.

This Valentine’s Day, may we all be reminded that true love is not just found in grand gestures, but in the quiet, everyday moments that add up to a lifetime together.

Happy Valentine’s Day!

Gift Giving on a Limited Budget

 

As most of you reading this have discovered by now, growing older is not always cheap!  Even with good financial planning, good insurance and a somewhat good bill of health, there are unexpected things that can come up and break the bank pretty quickly.  Because of this, it can make birthdays and gift giving at other holidays all the more stressful.  The bad news might be that you find yourself in the position of not being able to spend much, if anything, on gifts for those you love.  The good news is that there are options other than buying expensive gifts that are open to you if you are able to take the time to look.

The Gift of Food

Food can be a very economical gift to give if you’re on a tight budget. You could bake sweets before a gathering and box them up.  Or create your own baking mixes or spice mixes and put them into jars to be use.  You might even go so far as to make a few freezer meals that would be of great benefit for other people with busy schedules so that they could just pull it out of the freezer, thaw and cook for a real meal.  If you wanted to do something like this, you’d need to be sure that the person(s) in question do not have any particular food allergies.  If you’re unsure, always provide an ingredient list to those who will be receiving the gift.

The Gift of Time  

Many people do not realize how valuable the gift of time may be to another person.  If you are older, but greatly enjoy cooking, perhaps you could offer to cook a few meals for a growing family that is busy.  If you enjoy reading children’s stories, have someone help you start an account on YouTube where you can record yourself reading to your young family members so that you are able to read to the children even if you’re not able to be physically present at the time.  Even better, set aside time each week to video call or Zoom call your younger family members. 

Another avenue is to think through things that you’re good at, or things that you’ve done for work in the past and offer services in those areas. Perhaps someone could benefit from your tax knowledge and would love to not have to pay someone to do their taxes if you’re able to do it.  Maybe someone could use help with mending clothes or framing a window.  Do not think that just because you’re aging that you cannot offer your knowledge and skills to those that would appreciate it. 

Personal History & Diaries

A very thoughtful and inexpensive gift for those close to you might include a small book of memories of them.  You could begin writing in advance so that it would not become a chore, but rather a delightful walk down memory lane.  Include some photographs if you have them.  If you are quite elderly, perhaps a book of memories and stories of your childhood would be in order for those younger ones in your family.  Include the struggles that you’ve gone through, things that have helped you remain positive in order to overcome defeat and maybe even some inspiring quotes or pictures.  This gift is greatly appreciated by loved ones and could prove very helpful for them if you are related and you include a bit of anecdotal health history, as well. 

Books

Books are generally inexpensive and can be given with the recipient in mind.  If you know hobbies or interests that they enjoy, they are sure to love books that you give them on the subject.  If you do not know their interests well, you could always give them a book that you’ve found enjoyable, inspiring or helpful.  E-books can also be very economical (sometimes less than $1.00) for those of your friends and family who enjoy reading on a digital device.

Love

At the end of the day, all that people really want most is to know that you care. If you show love and care for them, there is no greater gift that you could give and there is no greater gift you could hope to receive. 

Gift Giving on a Limited Budget | Beehive Assisted Care

 

  As most of you reading this have discovered by now, growing older is not always cheap!  Even with good financial planning, good insurance & a somewhat healthy body, there are unexpected things that can come up and break the bank pretty quickly.  Because of this, it can make birthdays and gift exchanges at other holidays all the more stressful.  The bad news might be that you find yourself in the position of not being able to spend much, if anything, on gifts for those you love.  The good news is that there are options other than buying expensive gifts that are open to you if you are able to take the time to look.

  

  Food.  Food can be a very economical gift to give if you’re on a tight budget. You could bake sweets before a gathering & box them up.  You could create your own baking mixes or spice mixes & put them into jars to be use.  You might even go so far as to make a few freezer meals that would be of great benefit for other people with busy schedules so that they could just pull it out of the freezer, thaw & cook for a real meal.  If you wanted to do something like this, you’d need to be sure that the person(s) in question do not have any particular food allergies.  If you’re unsure, always provide an ingredient list to those who will be receiving the gift.

The gift of time.  Many people do not realize how valuable the gift of time may be to another person.  If you are older, but greatly enjoy cooking, perhaps you could offer to cook a few meals for a growing family that is busy.  If you enjoy reading children’s stories, have someone help you start an account of youtube where you can record yourself reading to your young family members so that you are able to read to the children even if you’re not able to be physically present at the time.  Think through things that you’re good at, or things that you’ve done for work in the past & offer services in those areas. Perhaps someone could benefit from your tax knowledge & would love to not have to pay someone to do their taxes if you’re able to do it.  Maybe someone could use help with mending clothes or framing a window.  Do not think that just because you’re aging that you cannot offer your knowledge & skills to those that would appreciate it. 

  History.  A very thoughtful & inexpensive gift for those close to you might include a small book of memories of them.  You would have to begin writing in advance so that it would not become a chore, but rather a delightful walk down memory lane.  Include some photographs if you have them.  If you are quite elderly, perhaps a book of memories would be in order for those younger ones in your family.  Include the struggles that you’ve gone through, things that have helped you remain positive in order to overcome defeat & maybe even some inspiring quotes or pictures.  This gift is greatly appreciated by loved ones & could prove very helpful for them if you are related and you include a bit of anecdotal health history, as well. 

  Books.  They are generally inexpensive & can be given with the recipient in mind.  If you know hobbies or interests that they enjoy, they are sure to love books that you give them on the subject.  If you do not know their interests well, you could always give them a book that you’ve found enjoyable, inspiring or helpful.

  Love.  At the end of the day, all that most people really want is to know that you care. If you show love & care for them, there is no greater gift that you could give & there is not greater gift you could hope to receive.